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Untangling the Knot: Queer Voices on Marriage, Relationships & Identity

“With marriage in the spotlight . . . who falls through the cracks?”

Ariel Gore participates in a marriage equality demonstration as she struggles for footing in her divorce. Trish Bendix receives a painful reminder that legal recognition of gay marriage is only one step toward societal recognition of her own marriage. Emanuel Xavier pays tribute to heroes of the LGBTQ community who didn’t live to enjoy the benefits of their activism.

Twenty-five deeply personal essays remind us marriage is not the same as family. It’s not the same as sex, orientation, or love. It’s not the same as inclusivity. And the law is not the same as acceptance. Amid queer voices that explore LGBTQ stories and perspectives often left out of the marriage equality debate, one note resonates, best described by Carter Sickels: “There is still so much work to be done.”

Carter Sickels, Editor

Carter Sickels is the author of the novel The Evening Hour. He is the recipient of the 2013 Lambda Literary Emerging Writer Award, a project grant from RACC, and an NEA Fellowship to the Hambidge Center for the Arts. His short stories and literary essays have appeared in a broad range of periodicals and anthologies, from Appalachian Heritage to The Collection: Short Fiction from the Transgender Vanguard. He lives in Portland, Oregon.

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As each of the authors argues, mainstreaming LGBTQ relationships is not necessarily the way to bring true equality to those whose lives don’t fit the traditional mold. Equality isn’t just about marriage, they say — it’s also about the freedom to live your life in peace in a complicated world.

The East Oregonian


Edited by Carter Sickels (The Evening Hour), these extremely sharp essays offer a startling array of perspectives on the fight for same-sex marriage in the United States, rendering a deceptively simple concept–that the needs of the LGBTQ community range far beyond marriage–fully and feelingly. Published as the Supreme Court agrees to hear arguments about same-sex marriage on a nationwide level, Untangling the Knot is profoundly eye
opening, even for readers well informed on the subject.

Shelf Awareness

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